“Friends are medicine for a wounded heart, and vitamins for a hopeful soul.”Steve Maraboli
I’ve had some particularly crummy friends. Now though, I have the best friends I could have asked for. They are there for me unconditionally. They are like family.
If you have really great friends, it’s important to self-assess every now and again to be sure that you are being a good friend to them, too.
1. Ask How Things Are Going
This is especially important when something significant is happening in your friend’s life. Try to remember important, upcoming events, and to follow up on recent events.
A simple text to remind your friend that you are thinking of her could be enough to make her whole day!
2. Remember Important Events
It made me smile in December when my best friends remembered Hubs’ and my wedding anniversary.
Technology makes little things like this so much easier to manage! I like to set phone reminders for my friends’ birthdays and other important dates.
I don’t know about you, but the days tend to get away from me fairly easily. So, having my phone buzz a couple times as a reminder to make a quick call, send a text, or pick up a gift can be a lifesaver!
3. Do Small, Random Favors
Has your friend been up late every night preparing for a big project at work? Bring over dinner for her and her family. Or, offer to babysit her kids one night so she can focus.
Is she going through a tough break-up? Show up with a bottle of wine and a selection of rom-coms.
It doesn’t take much to remind a friend that you care. But, it can mean the world to your friend.
4. Invite Them to Dinner
My two best friends and I all lived within a couple blocks of each other for three or four years. In fact, for some of that time, two of us shared a duplex!
During that time, we got in the habit of getting together on a regular basis for “Family Dinner.”
We’d take turns hosting, catch up on everything happening in each other’s lives, and watch football.
It was a simple tradition, and one I hold near and dear to my heart.
As our lives have gotten busier, and someone (okay . . . it was me) moved out of walking distance, it isn’t something we are able to do as often as we used to. But, we still make a point of getting together for a meal when we can all make it work.
Always be Your Best
Every-so-often, I like to check in with myself. Am I being the best friend that I can be for those who are always on my side?
What sets my best friends apart from the crowd is that they regularly check in (especially when something important is happening in my life), they remember the big days, they do little favors and buy little gifts, and they include me in family dinners and parties.
If I can do the same for them, I’d like to think I’m a pretty good friend, too!